These pages are for women who recognise that their life is changing and becoming more confusing and with fewer certainties about the future.

We call this the Midlife Transition and we want to inform and support women going through this stage of their life to get through it as painlessly as possible, although it will never be easy.

The midlife transition should lead to a happy outcome where you know yourself better and know where you are going.  However it possible toget lost or stuck with the right support and guidance.

The aim oif the Members Area is to provide that support guidance. The first step is to educate yourself about what is going on for you.

We have identified six areas that may hold you back from developing the kind of lifestyle and lovestyle which would really suit you.

Each of these areas has to be examined to find out how it is affecting you and what needs to be done to get it more under your control.

Unfortunately, these areas overlap and become entangled so you have to deal with whatever issues are most affecting you afflicting you at that particular time.

You will see these six areas illustrated in the drawing you will see here.

Further down this page you will see an introduction to each of the six areas with a brief explanation about what each is about.

After that we have a little test for you to find which are the areas where you may may need guidance.

We all need love at all stages of our life but the kind of love we want and that is available to us changes.  When we are young the traditional solution is to find a partner, usually one of the opposite sex. That usually leads to setting up a home having a family, and earning the money to pay for both.

Once that phase is over or coming to an end, the parents ask themselves what kind of life they want to be living and whether should it be together or apart. It is a time of changing partners which can mean finding a new partner or changing the one you are still with!

Find out more about what we have available for you in the Butterfly Club.

When we have grown out of teenage self-doubt and anxiety we enter a period flamboyant enthusiasm where we are full of optimism and energy and have wonderful dreams of our future. Sadly once we ‘settle down’ we find this enthusiasm seeps away as we are ground down by responsibilities of family and work.

When we come out of this period and are freer to get out into the world again, we often find we have lost our confidence and feel we have little to offer. This usually manifests in the way we dress and even the way we speak about ourselves. These things need to be addressed and put right.

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When we are in child-rearing years, we cheerfully dedicate all our time, attention and most of our money to our family. And they reward with their love, Then come the challenging teenage years as they start to assert their independence. Finally, when they think they are adult, most still want the indulgences they had when they were children.

The challenge both have is ‘letting go’ so both can live their own independent lives. A similar problem can exist with childhood friends who are still in your life and feel they can call on you for unlimited support and see your moves towards independence as a threat to their survival.  These can turn into ‘toxic friends’.

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Do you remember the wonderful dreams of your future you had when you were young?  Even if you don’t, or don’t think you had any, are there times when you think you would like to do something useful with the rest of your life?  Usually, this would be something to do with helping other people.

Most of us have a deep desire to do something useful and maybe leave a legacy that lives after us. Unfortunately, the pressures of the other five areas outlined above cause us doubt that we will ever be free to achieve them. So, we must first hold onto those dreams and dedicate time to freeing ourselves from the problem areas that hold us back.

Find out more about what we have available for you in the Butterfly Club.