How important are other people’s opinions to you?

By Aries Yeo – Our Mind Mender Expert

To reduce the importance of other people’s opinions, you need to believe in Yourself – and bring out your inner confidence!

When you are confident, not faking it, where would that confidence come from?

Yes,  it comes right from your core, and you feel it and know it right in your gut. That confidence is like what?

For me, it is simply mean Authenticity. 

When you are in your full authentic self, how does that feel?

Then what happen to your self-confidence?

Self-confidence is an attitude about your own skills and abilities.   Many of us have the skills and abilities yet we feel we are not good enough!   There is always someone who is better, somewhere, somehow….

Attitude – a way of thinking or feeling, so if we are not thinking or feeling that we are that good about our skills or abilities then confidence would be a challenge.

When we are able to embrace our Authenticity, something happens within us, there is an energy, there is invisible empowering.

The compelling need to compare with others, to be perfect, to be in control, to be… no longer has its hold on us. The social conditioning loses its grip.

Because we found our ‘Core’.  

And when we reclaim our authenticity,

We began to have better self-esteem.

We began to have better confidence

We began to have presence

As the famous Laozi says
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts you.” 

Here is an example of what it means from a coaching client:

“I am really lucky. Four promotions in four years in my company, and the people are genuinely nice. 

Now, being in a middle management, no longer the young trainee.  I realised that I am the only female for all my colleagues are white men in their 50s.   Sometimes, it just felt so difficult.  Let me give you an example.  Whenever there is a presentation,  each of them will use PowerPoint and they will list all the facts, statistics,  I try doing it their way but was totally burned out,  so I decided to do it my way and found that when I did that, my colleagues told me that “I was on fire” and  I do feel that there is so much more confidence in me too.  I noticed I am able to explain my WHY when I was asked, unlike before, it is always a struggle when someone question my motivation.”

Are you ready to embrace Your Full Self, to allow that confidence to shine through?

Love Aries