Are you an Optimist or a Pessimist? + Video

Are you an Optimist or a Pessimist?

In case you prefer to watch and listen I have recorded a video for you
https://lovemidlifewoman.wistia.com/medias/ithi2jhvoi 

Can I ask you a question?
Do you consider yourself to be a an Optimist or a Pessimist?

Maybe you would say, like many  people, it depends on the circumstances.
Maybe you consider yourself a waverer between Pessimism and Optimism?

Recently I heard the quote ‘Pessimism is for Lightweights’.  I didn’t know what it meant so I thought about it until I think I understand it.

Can we accept that some people are more predisposed to Pessimism and some towards Optimism?   But if you had a choice, which would you choose?

Well, the good news is that you do have that choice. The bad news is that is that it is hard work to be an optimist, at first anyway. It requires effort to look for and find good things until it becomes a habit.

Is not being willing to make this effort is what being a ‘lightweight’ means?

Is it much easier to go along with the prevailing tide of doom and gloom? If that is wearing a bit thin you can always tune into the media for a top up with news about the latest murders and disasters.

I have found that looking for the future good in your life requires you to look for the past good.

It seems to me the key is Gratitude for the good things in your life.

I adopted a practice a few years ago of writing a gratitude list every night before I go to sleep. This involves writing a list of five good things that have happened that day or that I have done and felt good about.

This was a bit of an effort at first. Now it has become a habit, the only reason I may not find five is that I fall asleep before I have finished. Sometimes I can’t stop, and it runs to six, seven or even eight.

I doubt my life has got better in recent years than it was before. The truth is that I did not notice or recognise then, the good things or feelings that happened in my life every day.

Do you think my life will get worse in the future?
I think it can only get better.
Does that make me an Optimist?
I hope so.

Are a waverer between a Pessimist and an Optimist?
Would you like to be more optimistic and less pessimistic?

If so, can I invite you to start to write a Gratitude List every night?
You can email me and let you know how you get on at
jean@lovemidlifewoman.com

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